It seems trite, but we really are our own worst enemies. There are so many cases in which we stop ourselves from really excelling. Especially if you are a consultant – where so much of your work is self-started, self-motivated – it is absolutely essential to break down the walls that restrict you from really excelling.
We are so worried about judgement! The greatest fear in the world is public speaking. Worse than death, people fear the judgement of a mob of their peers. Perhaps we fear the idea of an assessment passed by a majority – a fear of the negative judgement passed democratically.
But this fear stops us from truly growing, stops us from really connecting with people. In the business world, it stops us from reaching our greatest potential by stopping us from asking for what we need.
For instance, let’s say you’re looking to expand your business. The unspoken social rules for some reason say that you shouldn’t ask those closest to you for assistance. Yet, who on this earth would be more willing to help you succeed than someone who cares for you intrinsically? Your friends and family may have valuable resources beyond their basic support. Acquaintances, too. If you have even a basic connection with someone, reach out and try to make that connection deeper. Explain what you’re doing, explain how you can help them, how they can help you.
Break the wall of social limitations and you will see your potential soar.
People with low self confidence limit their potential all the time. Often we imagine some insurmountable precipice. An aspiring actor believes they could never get to A-list status, a clerk in an office thinks they’ll never be a partner. If we set our goals to high, we fear we will fail. Nothing stings more than not achieving what you set out to do.
Mythology is the only basis of this fear. Our own personal fear of Icarus – the Greek mortal who attempted to fly too close to the gods. The wings burn off, we crash to earth, and we’re left with nothing but the memory of our attempt.
Even that fear of failure is false. If you try and fail, you’re left with lessons and the dignity that comes to someone who can chase their dreams. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and rush into the next project a better person. Set your goals high, don’t fear failure. A great mantra to live by is “Be Unreasonable.”
We can easily see through glass, and it IS VERY fragile
Will of Others
Sad, but true: sometimes others despise the successful. Jealousy drives a few people to try and weigh down the advances of those who step outside of the box. As you break your glass ceiling, these demons grab at your ankles and try to pull you back down. The overwhelming majority of people in this world are not pursuing their dreams, and they are wont to tell you that you cannot either.
Try to remember that this is anger more directed at themselves. It’s not personal, they’ve just not learned to break their own limitations.
Don’t fear these people. Allow them their anger, allow them their self destruction. While they tear themselves apart, you can soar into new possibilities.